親愛なるDEIDRE: SOME people are destined to live lonely lives – in my case it must be punishment for the bad things I’ve done.
I’m a 43-year-old woman with two grown-up daughters.
After getting out of a violent relationship,
I’m not proud to say it but I turned to drink and behaved badly.
Now even my parents want nothing to do with me.
It has taken all my strength but I’ve managed to stop boozing and yet no matter how hard I try, no one is interested in me.
How do I learn to accept my destiny, because I am so lonely?
DEIDRESAYS: I know things feel bleak but nothing stays the same for ever.
You aren’t powerless to alter your life, but you are responsible for changing your life – no one else can do that for you.
Having a belief that you are destined to be alone is your biggest block to having a loving life partner.
Please get in contact with supportline.org.uk, which helps victims of abuse who feel isolated and at risk.
Its website has a fantastic section called Power To Change, which would be really useful for you to read.