LIEBE DEIDRE: I MADE a huge mistake asking my girlfriend to move in too soon. Now I don’t know how to tell her it’s over.
I’m a man of 47 and moved into my own flat following my divorce five years ago.
Letztes Jahr, a woman who’s 39 moved into the flat downstairs. She was single, we got talking and one thing led to another. That turned into a romantic relationship.
A few months ago, I said she should come upstairs to live with me. She agreed and put her flat up for rent.
Our sex life is good but I’ve quickly realised I don’t love her. I will only ever see her as a good friend.
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She’s clingy and goes along with everything I say.
I want to ask her to go back to her own flat but I know this will devastate her. I don’t want to hurt her or waste her time.
She’s a wonderful person and deserves to be with someone who loves her. How can I break this to her and cause the least amount of upset?
DEIDRE SAGT: You can’t help your feelings and it is better to be honest rather than carrying on when your heart isn’t in the relationship.
My support pack on Ending A Relationship will help you to conclude things in the best way possible.
Tell her you care for her and want to continue your friendship. I can’t promise she will agree but in time, this might be possible.