DEAR DEIDRE: I broke my ex-husband’s heart when I left him for a work colleague who treats me like a queen and dotes on my children.
He’s given up so much for me so why do I still think of my ex?
I’m 35 and my ex is 38. We were together for ten years and have two boys aged eight and six.
My colleague is 37. We fell in love and left our spouses, all within six months.
My husband moved on quickly too. He’s found someone new and wants a divorce.
It should be the perfect situation but I’m struggling to put my all into my new relationship, as I do still love my ex.
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He’s blocked me on his social media. It hurts he does things with his new partner he never did with me.
He treats her like a queen, whereas he took me for granted.
He seems genuinely happy with a woman who is the opposite to me.
I’m wondering if he ever loved me, or simply saw me as someone to have children with.
DEIDRE SAYS: Feelings for your ex will surface now and again.
Sometimes it can be as simple as having a lingering attraction, even though you don’t want to get back together.
Your relationship came to a rapid end and you were together a long time so you won’t have given yourself time to work through any unresolved feelings.
We can’t simply wipe our memories.
Try to focus on your new relationship and how well you get on – this will help you move forward.
My support pack Moving On will help you.