我是约会教练 & 感觉蝴蝶在人际关系中可能是一个巨大的危险信号

WHEN you’ve just started someone new, we’re all on the lookout for those tell-tale red flags – 你懂, things like: misogynistic jokes, constantly talking about their ex, poor hygiene, 等等.

But butterflies in your stomach? We’ve always been told to interpret that as a clear sign you 明显地 like this person.

Lauren said feeling butterflies after the third date is a BAD sign

Lauren said feeling butterflies after the third date is a BAD sign信用: tiktok @coachlaurenzoeller

Well according to dating coach Lauren Zoeller, it’s not always so clear-cut.

Sharing the dating advice in a TikTok视频, the relationship expert said it’s perfectly normal to feel butterflies ahead of your first or second date.

However after the third, she claims you should pause and take stock.

Lauren claimed: “Experiencing butterflies when you’re with someone after you have been dating them for a while is actually a sign from your nervous system that something is not right about the relationship.

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反而, Lauren claims thattrue intimacywith that special someonefeels like coming home”.

她继续: “Butterflies can be a sign that the relationship is not safe or that you need to some deeper healing.

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A little anxiety is normal on the first couple of datesbut if it’s been going on a while, it’s time to go!”

In response to a viewer who argued that butterflies were asign of excitement”, Lauren added: “是的! At the beginning. 然而, long-term they can mean a disregulated nervous system response.

一个回复: “So true, I had butterflies so bad and it was a big warning that I ignored never again!”

“是的, didn’t know that in my 20s,” 另一个补充. “Ended up being with the guy for almost two years before I broke it off.

然而, others argued that three dates wasn’t enough time to really know someone.

第三个写了: “Geez three dates is nothing!!! C’mon now.

有关更多的关系故事, 这 woman sends herself drinks from fake secret admirer on first dates – trolls say it’s embarrassing but it’s to show her worth.

还有这个 woman found out her boyfriend was cheating when she was shopping on DEPOP – his other girl sent the cheekiest response.

再加上这个 plus-sized woman said skinny girls think their boyfriends are safe around her – but guys love her curves.

I gave my number to a guy at the gym but things took an awkward turn before we’d even had a date