LIEBE DEIDRE: SINCE I came out as transgender to my best mate, she hasn’t stopped addressing me by my old, weiblicher Name.
Telling her took a lot of courage and I thought she’d accept my identity, instead she jokes about it and acts like it’s just a phase.
Als ich den Körper meiner Frau online mit anderen Männern teilte, dachte ich, ich hätte Lust auf einen Dreier 21 und in der Schule kennengelernt.
As I identify as a boy now, I find it really offensive to be constantly deadnamed and misgendered by her.
I keep telling her to stop, but she says she can’t as she knows the real me.
If even my best mate won’t accept me for who I am, how will anyone else?
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DEIDRE SAGT: Just as it will have taken you time to work out your identity, your friends and family will also need time to adjust.
Talk to your friend again and explain you’d really appreciate it if she can make more effort to get your name and gender right.
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As you are starting on your own journey it is natural that you may lose some friends and gain new ones.
For support, contact the BeYou Project (thebeyouproject.co.uk).