CHER DEIDRE: SINCE I came out as transgender to my best mate, she hasn’t stopped addressing me by my old, nom féminin.
Telling her took a lot of courage and I thought she’d accept my identity, instead she jokes about it and acts like it’s just a phase.
We’re both 21 and met at school.
As I identify as a boy now, I find it really offensive to be constantly deadnamed and misgendered by her.
I keep telling her to stop, but she says she can’t as she knows the real me.
If even my best mate won’t accept me for who I am, how will anyone else?
DEIDRE DIT: Just as it will have taken you time to work out your identity, your friends and family will also need time to adjust.
Talk to your friend again and explain you’d really appreciate it if she can make more effort to get your name and gender right.
PLUS DE CHER DEIDRE
As you are starting on your own journey it is natural that you may lose some friends and gain new ones.
For support, contact the BeYou Project (thebeyouproject.co.uk).