CHER DEIDRE: MY daughter accused my then-partner of fondling her breasts while she slept on our sofa.
She was hysterical and made me drive her home.
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She had been staying with us for a few days. I’d put my granddaughter to bed but had to wake her and take them home.
I stayed over with my daughter, as I didn’t know what to do. I cried all night.
When I got home the next day, my partner denied it all.
Now my daughter has banned me from seeing my granddaughter, as I stayed with my partner.
He ended up on sexual assault charges and we eventually split up.
I haven’t seen my daughter since. She says I’m dead to her and has threatened to take out a harassment order if I try to contact her.
Je suis 52 and my daughter’s 26. My ex is 54.
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DEIDRE DIT: Your daughter is angry you initially stood by your ex but sometimes it can be hard to believe what our children say, even adult children, because we don’t want to accept it.
You are not to blame for your ex’s behaviour.
Stay strong for your daughter and let her know you are there for her to talk to when she is ready.
Seek support through standalone.org.uk, which is there for estranged family members.