CARO DEIDRE: MY girlfriend refuses to have sex with me because she thinks my penis is too big and she is terrified it will hurt her.

But I’m sure I’m normal-sized, just average.

Sono 30 and she’s only 21 and still a virgin.

She’s been too scared to try again since.

We’ve been together for three months now and this is becoming a major issue between us.

I really like her, but sex is an important part of a relationship for me.

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DEIDRE DICE: Try to be patient – pressuring her will make this worse.

Make it clear you really like her and will take things slowly.

Explain that sex – even losing her virginity – shouldn’t be painful.

The most important thing is to make sure she’s relaxed.

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