My husband watches a lot of gay pornwould he rather be with a man?

亲爱的迪德: I SOMETIMES wonder if I’m enough for my man because he chooses to look at gay porn most days.

I’m a woman of 45 and he’s 50.

He told me he had an affair with a man when he was younger, but he says he loves me

He told me he had an affair with a man when he was younger, but he says he loves me

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He told me he had an affair with a man when he was at university but he says he loves me and feels secure with me.

We do still have sex a couple of times a week. I have a condition which affects my mobility so I can’t get around as much as I used to.

I love watching quizzes on TV, so while I watch those, he’s in the bedroom pleasuring himself to gay pornography.

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He doesn’t even hide it now. He does it five or six times a day.

I don’t want him with me out of duty and, deep down, I think he’d rather be with a man.

迪德说: Sexuality is on a sliding scale and we’re all somewhere along that line.

Your husband gets a thrill from watching gay men, but this is now an addiction.

Porn is designed to be addictive – that’s how the film-makers profit from it.

Pornography blunts the appetite for real sex with a partner and this is where relationships often become unstuck.

You might not be up for swinging from the chandelier but you do your best.

You need help if your marriage is to last, so contact tavistockrelationships.org (0207 380 1960), who have online help available.

My support pack Internet Pornography Worries explains sources of help, 也.

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