My mother-in-law is a horrible, bitter woman and I don’t want her in my life

DEAR DEIDRE: MY mother-in-law is no joke. She’s a horrible, bitter woman and I don’t want her in my life.

I’ve spent 20 years trying to please her.

My mother-in-law is a horrible, bitter woman and I don't want her in my life

My mother-in-law is a horrible, bitter woman and I don’t want her in my life

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Every time I see her, she criticises me – my dress sense, my hair, my choices. She even puts me down in front of my teenage children.

I’m 43 and my husband is 45. She is 84.

I’ve gone out of my way to be kind and helpful, cooking for her and buying her gifts.

All I get in return is nasty comments, such as: “Have you thought about lipstick to liven up your look?” or “You should get a better-paid job.”

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Last weekend, I reached the end of my tether. Should I just stay away from her in future?

My husband doesn’t help, insisting he wants to keep out of it.

DEIDRE SAYS: You don’t deserve to be her punchbag and you’d be entitled to stay away.

But after 20 years of nasty comments, perhaps it is time to stand up to her.

The next time she says something, you could say: “That’s your view, but I don’t agree.” Quietly but firmly.

My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, explains the techniques to use.

Your husband may say he wants to keep out of it but he should support you. Appeal to him again.