QUERIDA DEIDRE: SINCE I gave birth, my sex drive has disappeared, and it’s ruining my relationship.
I dread going to bed because I know my husband will come on to me.
Estoy 32 MI nuevo novio está obsesionado con mis pies y me está apagando 38. We have a son who is a year old, and I’m still breastfeeding.
My husband is still just as attractive as ever – I just have zero interest in sex.
We used to make love several times a week.
I did try after my six-week check-up, because he was so keen, but it hurt.
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That’s put me off trying again.
We’re no longer close and I’m scared I’ll lose him.
I’m even considering telling him to sleep with other women, to save my marriage.
DICE DEIDRE: It’s very common to lose your libido and for sex to be painful while you’re breastfeeding because it lowers oestrogen (the key hormone for arousal and vaginal lubrication).
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Don’t tell him to have sex with other women – that’s the surefire way to ruin your marriage.
En lugar de, ask him to be patient, explain how you’re feeling, and explore things other than sex which you can do to be intimate.
Mi paquete de apoyo, Saving Your Sex Life, should help.