Niemand hat mir erzählt, dass mein entfremdeter Vater gestorben ist, bis er in einer Kneipe einen Bekannten getroffen hat

LIEBE DEIDRE: I ONLY found out that my dad had died when someone who had known him years ago bumped into me in a pub. I was estranged from him over an argument about my boyfriend at the time.

He didn’t like him and we fell out over it. I didn’t see him again, but he was in my thoughts a lot as we had always been close before this.

Niemand hat mir erzählt, dass mein entfremdeter Vater gestorben ist, bis er in einer Kneipe einen Bekannten getroffen hat

Niemand hat mir erzählt, dass mein entfremdeter Vater gestorben ist, bis er in einer Kneipe einen Bekannten getroffen hat

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I’m a 36-year-old woman. I missed attending his funeral, and if I’m honest I’m not sure that I would have gone, but I would have liked to have been given the chance.

Every so often I think about him and keep asking myself why wasn’t I told he’d died.

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Mia is spending her first Christmas with new lover Charlie

Es fühlt sich an, als wäre er betrogen worden

Mia is spending her first Christmas with new lover Charlie

DEIDRE SAGT: Your family may have thought that your relationship was so strained that you wouldn’t want to know – they may have been considering your feelings.

Death closes the door on reconciliation but try to focus on the happy years with your dad – no one can take those away from you.

Bereavement counselling would help you. Contact Cruse Bereavement Care (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677).

WEITER IN HEUTE LIEBE DEIDRE My fiance has booked a Christmas holiday abroadbut I’m not invited

LESEN SIE DEIDRES FOTO-FALLBUCH Mia is spending her first Christmas with new lover Charlie

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