No one told me my estranged dad had died until bumped into acquaintance in pub

亲爱的迪德: I ONLY found out that my dad had died when someone who had known him years ago bumped into me in a pub. I was estranged from him over an argument about my boyfriend at the time.

He didn’t like him and we fell out over it. I didn’t see him again, but he was in my thoughts a lot as we had always been close before this.

No one told me my estranged dad had died until bumped into acquaintance in pub

No one told me my estranged dad had died until bumped into acquaintance in pub

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I’m a 36-year-old woman. I missed attending his funeral, and if I’m honest I’m not sure that I would have gone, but I would have liked to have been given the chance.

Every so often I think about him and keep asking myself why wasn’t I told he’d died.

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迪德说: Your family may have thought that your relationship was so strained that you wouldn’t want to know – they may have been considering your feelings.

Death closes the door on reconciliation but try to focus on the happy years with your dad – no one can take those away from you.

Bereavement counselling would help you. Contact Cruse Bereavement Care (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677).

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