DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER listening to my son ripping into someone on the phone, I was devastated to realise he was talking about me.
Instead of apologising, he dropped the bombshell that he was moving out to live with his dad.
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I’m 46 and my boy is 16. Years ago he witnessed hideous physical abuse from my ex-husband, who was controlling and verbally abusive towards me.
He never took any interest in my son or daughter, who is now 11.
My ex is 48 and left four years ago. My lad was always close to me, so this is very upsetting.
I reminded him his father is a bully but he wouldn’t listen. He packed a bag and his dad picked him up.
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I went to visit him last week and he looked scruffy and malnourished, like a homeless child.
I’m heartbroken but my husband is loving every moment.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Keep the lines of communication open as much as you can. If possible, arrange to meet your son for a drink somewhere, perhaps to catch up with his sister?
He may start to open up about what is really going on for him. But don’t pry, let him talk when he’s ready.
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If you see anything that still concerns you, contact nspcc.org.uk (0808 800 5000) and although you are female, you will also find emotional support from Families Need Fathers (fnf.org.uk, 0300 0300 363).
My support pack Troubled Teenagers will help you too.