親愛なるDEIDRE: MY mum says she will cut back on her drinking when she’s ready, but that time isn’t now.
She insists she doesn’t have a problem, but she is always upset after she has been out drinking.
私は 24 and Mum is 55. 彼女のお母さん, my grandma, died a few months ago.
Mum lived with Grandma after divorcing ten years ago.
She has always liked a drink but only on nights out.
I would really like her to get some help, but she refuses.
I don’t understand how I can grieve and feel sad, whereas she can’t.
DEIDRESAYS: You’re right – she does need help.
When she’s sober, explain you are worried about her and her drinking.
Counselling will help her deal with the loss of her mum.
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Cruse (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677) offers one-to-one and group sessions.
My support packs Coping With Bereavement and Dealing With A Problem Drinker? outline various organisations you can turn to for support.