親愛なるDEIDRE: I WAS looking forward to retiring next year and thought my husband would give up his job and retire too.
The plan was that we could then spend time together.
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He is past retirement age but carried on working, as I was.
私は 62 and my husband’s 67. We’ve been married for 35 年.
He won’t say for definite that he’s not going to retire, but keeps saying he’s needed in his job, and he really enjoys it.
I worry he won’t want to give up when I do and I’ll be left on my own.
I’m hurt that my husband would rather be with his workmates than me.
I’m seriously thinking of not retiring so I won’t be lonely.
DEIDRESAYS: Retirement brings great uncertainty for many and your husband may be nervous about giving up a job he loves.
But there is room for compromise. Could he work part-time?
This would give him an idea of what life might look like if he retired completely.
Work on building up your social life and meet new people so you are not so reliant on your husband.
My support pack Widening Your Social Life has lots of ideas to get you started.