亲爱的迪德: ALL men look at pornography, according to my husband.
But at every spare minute of the day? I don’t think so.
He’s 50 and I’m his long-suffering 45-year-old wife.
I nursed him through bowel cancer six years ago and he’s now clear.
I sat with him for hours on end at the hospital and since then I’ve cooked and cleaned for him constantly.
We haven’t had sex since his illness. He says he’s impotent.
People say I keep myself looking good but he’s not interested in me.
I looked at the history on his laptop and it’s clear he uses porn every time I go to work, or even has a quick look when I jump in the shower.
He doesn’t stop.
He denied it until I showed him the evidence and then replied, “Plenty of men do this and worse. At least I’ve never gone to the dark side.”
I dread to think what that even means.
I feel he’s used me like a skivvy throughout our marriage.
迪德说: You are young enough to enjoy a good sex life and if he’s serious about erectile dysfunction, he needs a referral to a urologist.
But he’s looking at porn, so perhaps he’s become overly reliant on getting on-screen relief instead.
Find a quiet moment to tell him you miss intimacy and something has to change.
He can find help through The Laurel Centre (thelaurelcentre.co.uk, 01926 339594) which helps with porn addiction.