DEAR DEIDRE: MY mother-in-law ignores my family when we see her in town.
We pass each other like strangers.
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She is 67. I’m 35 and my husband is 36.
We have been together for nine years and have two kids, aged one and three.
Four years ago, my mother-in-law got divorced from her husband.
My husband struggled with the decision but we maintained a decent relationship with both of them.
Everything was fine until six months later, when she posted photos of her new man on Facebook.
My husband was hurt that she announced it on social media before telling him.
He confronted her and they got into a heated argument. Four years later, they still refuse to talk to each other.
It’s ridiculous. This has gone on long enough. His mum has never even met her grandchildren.
But they’re both too stubborn to back down.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is lovely that you want to build bridges.
And you are right, it would be a shame for your children to miss out on their relationship with their grandmother.
Try to persuade your husband to draw a line under what has happened and move on, at least for the sake of your children.
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He could send a letter to his mother explaining he would like to start afresh.
You might want to contact Stand Alone (standalone.org.uk), which helps people who are estranged from their families.