亲爱的迪德: MY mother-in-law is no joke. She’s a horrible, 苦涩的女人，我不想让她出现在我的生活中.
I’ve spent 20 years trying to please her.
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Every time I see her, she criticises me – my dress sense, my hair, my choices. She even puts me down in front of my teenage children.
我是 43 and my husband is 45. 她是 84.
I’ve gone out of my way to be kind and helpful, cooking for her and buying her gifts.
All I get in return is nasty comments, 如: “Have you thought about lipstick to liven up your look?” or “You should get a better-paid job.”
上周末, I reached the end of my tether. Should I just stay away from her in future?
My husband doesn’t help, insisting he wants to keep out of it.
迪德说: You don’t deserve to be her punchbag and you’d be entitled to stay away.
但是之后 20 years of nasty comments, perhaps it is time to stand up to her.
The next time she says something, you could say: “That’s your view, but I don’t agree.” Quietly but firmly.
我的支持包, Standing Up For Yourself, explains the techniques to use.
Your husband may say he wants to keep out of it but he should support you. Appeal to him again.