亲爱的迪德: MY partner has sexy messages from other women on his phones – but if I confront him I’m the nutter, or the drama queen.
I have heard him laughing and mimicking me with his friends when I get upset.
He says I’m the green-eyed monster and need to stop being so possessive.
Sometimes he openly flirts with women right in front of me. It’s so humiliating.
我是 40, he is 58 and we’ve been together for five years.
He was lovely for the first year but the last four have been grim.
He has two phones — one for work, the other for personal use.
I check them regularly and, like clockwork, there are normally filthy messages from women I don’t know.
During our relationship he has cheated and lied to me so many times — and while I always forgive him, I never forget.
We live together but he has his own place too. He has a grown-up daughter who wants nothing to do with him.
My son is 17 and has Asperger’s, which my partner finds hard to cope with.
We argue over the comments he makes about him. He calls him horrible names and says I have no life looking after him.
I pay all the bills — food, rent and utilities. He thinks he’s contributing enough by buying a couple of take-aways a week, and that’s it.
My best friend has recently sold her flat and moved far away.
She was like a big sister to me and now I have nobody.
I feel as though I want to get away and be near her.
I dream of a fresh start but I suffer with anxiety due to domestic abuse in a past relationship.
My partner isn’t violent like my last one but he hurts me so much.
I feel so lost and don’t know what to do for the best.
迪德说: Your partner may not be physically hurting you but he is emotionally abusive.
You deserve better and so does your son.
It’s damaging for you both to hear his nasty comments.
You owe it to your son to protect him from this abuse.
Your partner is a serial cheat and is unlikely to change.
He has you exactly where he wants you – running the home, supporting him and having sex with you until the next woman comes along.
You don’t need to listen to any more lies, you have enough evidence. Best to be firm and tell him you are over.
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