親愛なるDEIDRE: AFTER being widowed I met a lovely man, three years ago, who told me he suffered from anxiety. It didn’t put me off.

We have amazing times together but he drinks whenever he gets nervous.

Each time my three teenage children have met him, he has been drunk. And the problem is getting worse.

He’s a friend from years back.

私は 52, 彼は 55 と離婚した.

He sent me a message a few days ago telling me our relationship wasn’t working and it wasn’t fair on me.

I’m confused and upset but my kids have already told me they don’t like him.

I’ve seen the man with no drink inside him and he’s amazing.

DEIDRESAYS: When alcohol plays a role in a relationship, things go downhill fast.

While booze might feel like a solution in the short term, it can quickly become a crutch. It will not get better as time goes on and is unfair on you.

Only he can decide to seek help for his anxiety.

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But the worry and unhappiness when he has been drinking outweigh the happy moments the rest of the time.

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