ALEX Scott broke down in tears as she recalled to Steve Bartlett how her abusive father wouldn’t let her hug her mum after a beating.
Alex’s voice was strained and she battled tears as she told of how her father would be violent toward her mother.
She then recalled the “hardest night”.
“I heard everything, I heard her trying to run.
“But she doesn’t know what me and my brother are doing or feeling.
“That was the hardest night that one.”
She says the house was just silent the next morning, and she wasn’t allowed to even speak to, let alone hug, sua madre.
Alex ha detto: “Come un 5-6 anni, I just want to hug my mum. But we can’t. I wasn’t allowed to show love.
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“I suppose that’s why a word like control is easy to say – until you break it down and understand that’s the control.
“I’m not even allowed to show love, or hug, or speak really.”
Steve asked why she wasn’t allowed to hug her mother and Alex said her father said she couldn’t – and there would be consequences.
It was that homelife that drove Alex to calcio, as she says it was a “safe space”.
When Steve asked what the consequence would be she said: “What my mum would go through, the terror, the helplessness that you can’t do anything, just living in fear.
“You’re living in fear every single moment.
“That’s why the football cage becomes your escape, for me.”
I’m not even allowed to show love, or hug, or speak really.
Alex tells all in her book, but admitted it was one of the first times she’d truly opened up about her life.
She told Steve: “It’s hard for me to talk about, because I suppose I’ve hid it all this time.”
Alex added: “But because of everything that I’ve gone through, I am the person I am now.
“You have to take the good bits, and bad bits, and it’s what makes me me.”
Alex has opened up about many unknown parts of her life this week, including when she was racially abused and trolled online.
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How you can get help
Women’s Aid offre questo consiglio alle vittime e alle loro famiglie:
- Tieni sempre il telefono nelle vicinanze.
- Mettiti in contatto con enti di beneficenza per chiedere aiuto, compresa la helpline della chat dal vivo di Women’s Aid e servizi come SupportLine.
- Se sei in pericolo, chiamata 999.
- Acquisisci familiarità con la soluzione silenziosa, segnalare abusi senza parlare al telefono, invece di comporre "55".
- Tieni sempre dei soldi con te, compreso il cambio per un telefono pubblico o un biglietto dell'autobus.
- Se sospetti che il tuo partner stia per attaccarti, prova ad andare in una zona a basso rischio della casa, ad esempio, dove c'è una via d'uscita e l'accesso a un telefono.
- Evita la cucina e il garage, dove è probabile che ci siano coltelli o altre armi. Evita le stanze in cui potresti rimanere intrappolato, come il bagno, o dove potresti essere rinchiuso in un armadio o in un altro piccolo spazio.
Se sei vittima di abusi domestici, SupportLine è aperto martedì, Mercoledì e giovedì dalle 18:00 alle 20:00 01708 765200. Il servizio di supporto email dell'ente di beneficenza è aperto nei giorni feriali e nei fine settimana durante la crisi - email@example.com.
Women’s Aid fornisce a servizio di chat dal vivo – available weekdays from 8am-6pm and weekends 10am-6pm.
Puoi anche chiamare il numero verde 24 ore su 24 della National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 2000 247.