亲爱的迪德: THE woman I married has turned into a stranger – an overweight, lazy woman who takes no interest in me or our relationship.
I don’t want to get divorced but I don’t like the person she has become.
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We have been married for 18 年. 我是 47, 她是 45 and we have two teenage children.
When we met at college, we fell madly in love and lust. We had so much in common and I knew she was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
But over the past few years, she has changed. She spends all day sitting at her desk working and all evening watching box sets or chatting on her phone.
She has stopped exercising, never goes out for walks and can’t be bothered to cook proper meals, instead eating frozen pizzas or takeaways.
As a result she has piled on weight, which has made her hate the way she looks.
I’ve tried talking to her but she says she’s fine. Nothing changes, and I can’t carry on like this much longer.
迪德说: Your wife sounds like she is depressed and stuck in a rut.
If you love her, you need to be honest with her and see if you can work on your relationship together.
我的支持包, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.
Perhaps you could help her lose weight by doing a diet or exercise programme together.
Relationship counselling would be useful, 接触 tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960).